Tuesday, January 16, 2018

Dimes, Profiles, and Wives: An Inside Look

     You may be wondering what is the meaning behind the title Dimes, Profiles and Wives? A dime, or dime piece, sounds simple enough right. Hip hop artists always want one in their stable and most women with perfect hourglass bodies fit the bill. But who is this woman really?  She’s the kind of girl that pretty much can get any type of man she wants with little or no effort. Shoot, all she needs to do is walk out of the house and somebody, somewhere is gonna take notice.  She’s that it girl, the girl everyone wants to get with. A man could spend a lifetime dating these types of women only to realize she is never gonna just be with him alone.  She may have him, Charlie and Tim wide open and none of them is the guy she really wants. When she finally does decide to settle down though, her man will always be satisfied.

           So when was I a dime? I’d have to say during my late teens early twenties.  Shoot, I had so many men chasing after me I had to hide from them.  I remember a few times while I was a student at OSU having two dates in one night.  How I got through those nights was a wonder, but I did it effortlessly it seemed.  That was until they both showed up at my dorm one night.  I had to get some help from my girlfriends, but I got out of that dilemma pretty much intact. Still though, I wouldn’t recommend that to anybody, male or female, young or old.
           The second type of woman is the profile chick or the trophy.   You know her, she keeps a list of what she wants from a man and sticks to it. She will not date anyone who does not fill her application for love.  This is the girl that men love and hate.  She is the woman always telling a man they will never measure up to the type of man she deserves, even though  she’s staring her Boaz right in the face. This girl is a trip and a half because she wears a thick mask that nobody has been able to remove.  But she got her stuff together, on paper.  She’s that independent woman who most times finds herself alone because no one can satisfy her long list of superficial desires.
     I found out that I could be this mess of woman too.  In my late twenties, to early thirties I had a list nobody could meet.  One came close though and we still remain friends to this day, from a distance.  Back then he was the only man to come close to meeting my every inclination, yet we did not end up together.  Meeting the criteria and being the one you are supposed to marry is not the same thing.  I found this out the hard way. However, it was a lovely relationship, so close and yet so far away.
Then there is the wife.  She is the ideal Proverbs 31:10-31 woman of virtue from the Bible that all men should want to make his own.  This woman is the kind of woman men want to bring home to meet their mother and keep for a mate.  She is not a dime or profile. She is not easy, fake or a door mat.  No, she is the woman who has been preparing herself to be the wife a man needs to get through life with as a help meet.  She knows God, follows after His heart and shows true wisdom.  She is full grown, healed and whole.
        I prayed, prepared and changed the broken woman that I was to become a Proverbs 31 good wife for years. Now I can say I am married to a Godly man who I waited for patiently and actively. We have been together for over three years and our love continues to grow daily. Becoming a good wife was a hard path to follow, but I continue to walk on it daily. I want to share the lives of three young women who live the their lives as one of these types of women: Dimes, Profiles and Wives. As you turn the pages of my premier book I hope it will keep you intrigued and praying that you become the latter in God’s timing.

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Dimes, Profiles, and Wives

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