Wednesday, February 10, 2021

A Series End

     When you have so much going on like I do, it’s hard to keep up with the plans you made for yourself all the time. My latest work, To Say I Do is the final book in the series for Dimes, Profiles and Wives. It has been sitting inside my laptop waiting to get out for about three months now, but finally I gave birth to the baby. It took me a little over three years to finish the work, have it edited and get it ready for publishing under my imprint ToyShelf Publishing. It was hard work, and right now I’m a little sad.

I’m sad because this storyline took a lot out of me. One of the main characters, Destiny Karen Price, was written based off of my life and dreams thereof. Her real fight with bipolar disorder is an everyday battle that I can attest to without a shadow of a doubt. Most of the scenes that she went through in the book is based on true events in my life. It is a wonder how I have made it over, yet and still God got me and has had me in the palm of His hand all of my life.

To Say I Do is a book that I hope readers will connect with on so many different levels. It will have you asking questions about true love, the joys of life and the trials and tribulations that build character in people. Still though, I believe it will be an enjoyable read. The ones who have been waiting all this time since the beginning when Tracey first slapped the doo-doo out of Fatima will finally see how it all pans out.

If you will, please take a gander at the entire series. I put my foot in it, as the old folks would say. I want to thank all my readers who have followed my budding writing career thus far and haven’t wavered even though it has taken me some time to finish projects. I don’t think you will be disappointed in how Dimes, Profiles and Wives the series comes to an end.

Saturday, January 30, 2021

A Long Hiatus

For almost two years I have been on a long hiatus from my blog. I have been concentrating on caring for my ailing mother, working during a pandemic and finishing my last book in the series for Dimes, Profiles and Wives. It has been so well worth it though. I had some ups and downs, but for the most part my life has been full of joy, love and peace. One major downer though was the decision to divorce my husband. 

Although he put on a major facade that he was in love with me for who I was, in the end I found out the hard way that his opportunistic and narcissistic ways were tearing me apart. Before him, I had not been in the hospital for almost ten years battling bipolar psychotic episodes. During our marriage, I was in and out of the hospital at least once a year for five years. That was too much, finally I had had enough and put a stop to the madness. I am happy to say I stepped up and out on faith, listened to the discerning spirit that I had been running from for years and ended it. I learned so many lessons in that relationship. I will write about it and tell the story one day.  I want others who may feel trapped in a marriage, dealing with emotional, verbal or even physical abuse to be empowered so that they feel like they don’t have to put up with appearances to please everyone when in reality all it is doing is destroying their self worth. 

Another downer is the fact that my mother is going through the pains of dealing with PSP. PSP is progressive supranuclear palsy which is in the family of Parkinson’s. There is really no formal treatment for it other than continued physical, occupational, and speech therapies. She has someone in and out of the house Tuesday through Friday helping her keep a stint of regular life for as long as she can. And as long as I can care for her safely we will be living together.

The greatest thing to happen is the completion of my first series. It was a long time coming but I finally got it finished and I believe the project is my best work. I put my best foot forward in this last book of the series. When you finally get into the nitty gritty of it all, you will be shocked, but delighted in the end. The girlfriends helped grow me into the woman I am today and showed me how to be real in the moment without sugar coating anything. My motto has been giving you the real testimonies in print while I create something new everyday. Well, these ladies' lives are testimonies of parts of my life and the lives of people that I know personally. Of course, embellishments sell and I would never throw anybody totally under the bus (but if you cross me you’ll probably die in print).

Tuesday, March 26, 2019

The Promise

At the end of last month I had to move back home to be the primary care giver for my ailing mother. She had been falling almost twice a day, every day for almost two weeks. The last straw was when she fell and ended up in the hall closet. If it was not for her home health aide showing up on time, she would have been in the closet for hours which could have been deadly. I had been vacillating for months if I should move home or not due to her failing health, but I finally made the decision and I am so glad that I did.

Although I am married, my husband has been very supportive and understanding of the issues I am facing. I am not an only child, but my sister lives on the other side of the country in Los Angeles, CA. My uncle was living with her, but he has to work and often leaves for days at a time. Facing the possibility that my mother could end up really hurting herself during a fall, I took a leave of absence from my job and have been caring for her 24/7.

Since I have been home, she has only fallen six times.  She has been having physical and occupational therapy weekly and was recently discharged due to an increased improvement in her balance and gait. But the best thing is her MRI came back clear and we have finally got the best cocktail of medications. It took a long time coming, but I finally feel like I can breathe a little easier knowing that she will be okay.

Her primary care physician made the call that she needs to move into an assisted living community. It was a hard pill for mom to swallow, but now she is excited to start a new chapter in her life. She is not going to be able to age in place at our family home, due to safety reasons. However, we found a nice, safe and award-winning facility close to my home. It’s been a tedious search, but I am so happy that she will be taken care of.

Usually, I don’t talk about my family, but I felt like sharing this story on my blog because a lot of my friends are watching their parents age and I want them and others to know, they are not alone. One of my high school friend’s father just passed last week and another’s mother the week before. Being middle aged has been good and bad, full of ups and downs, but I will have to say that watching my mother age has been the toughest part so far.  I can truly say that I am happy she is still here though. Sometimes I feel like the world is on my shoulders, but I know God is not going to put more on me that I can bear.

To those who are going through something similar with their parents know this: As you honor your father and your mother, your days will be long Ex 20:12. [It] is the first commandment with a promise, that it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on earth. Eph 6:2-3. You can take comfort in that assurance.